Today, I’d like to talk about perhaps the most important contributors to my success, my family. And by family, I mean my lovely wife Michelle, the boys and all of my extended support network. Each of them have contributed to my success and I am thankful for every bit of it.
The biggest contributor in anything that I have been able to accomplish has been Michelle. She has been the person who has challenged me most to keep going, even when I don’t want to keep going. But aside from the fact that I love her and want to be around for her and the boys, she has contributed in many practical ways that have allowed me to focus on keeping it up for these past 7+ months. First, she has “been there, done that” with fitness and weight loss. She has managed to drop 40+ pounds after each of the boys were born and continues to be a workout maniac. The fact that she knows what is possible and has the formula for success has been a huge boost. Keep in mind that she is also a health education professional (currently!) gives her a unique perspective as well a communication style that works well with my often juvenile behavior. She is a workout maniac. I have often said that if we could combine my ability to ensure that I track everything and eat well with her “gym-rat”; we could make the perfect diet/exercise specimen. More importantly however, she knows WHAT to do and how to teach it to me. When I started out at the gym, she made little index cards with exactly what I needed to do written down on them. I took those cards with me every time I went to the gym and referred to them. It was the recipe for success. All I had to do was cook it! Far and away, the best thing she has done for me was to be my biggest cheerleader. She has kept me on an even keel. She was very good about not letting me get too excited about a good week or a good day and making sure that I celebrate milestones and achievements. As much as she says that I did all the work, I recognize that there is no way on earth I would have been able to do this without her love and support.
My boys have been big contributors as well. Even though they don’t realize it at all and have never even recognized that “daddy is a lot smaller now”, they have made a huge difference. Every time I am on the infernal treadmill, closing in on exhaustion and wanting to quit, I think about them and how they would want to know that daddy doesn’t ever quit when things get tough and he doesn’t ever just give up. They keep me going.
Lastly, YOU have played a part in me getting here. One of the things that I promised myself that I would do is tell EVERYONE what I am doing and how I am trying to do it. And your encouragement, challenges and high fives along the way have helped push me along. Yeah, there have been many times driving past the donut shop that I have wanted to just drive through and get a fistful of delicious donuts, but I didn’t. I felt like I would be letting a lot of people down. Thank you for that!
So, now you are thinking.. “But Aric, I don’t live with a trainer, who knows about nutrition and can tell me what I need to do; how on earth can I possibly do this?” You can do exactly what I did; I went to my doctor and asked for help. Yeah, Michelle had been going on and on about exercise and nutrition; but I didn’t actually believe her until I met with Dr. Pohlman and Cassie Vanderwall (http://onesource4wellness.com/) from the Rush Hospital Nutrition Clinic. Dr. Pohlman and Ms. Vanderwall both laid out a sensible diet plan that consisted of eating RIGHT and how much I should be eating so that I can sustain a healthy weight for the rest of my life. Of course, this validated what Michelle had been telling me all along; so really, I should just listen to my wife.
In Short:
See your doctor.
Ask for help.
I will cheer you on!
Very impressive Aric and sounds like you have a solid formula for long term success. I have tremendous respect for what you have accomplished. Just curious are you tired of the word “diet”?
Yeah, I don’t really like to use it at all.. I’m not on a diet, I just try to eat the right foods in the right amounts. I’m a firm believer that you should never go “on a diet”. You should just make healthy food choices every day; not some crazy “ZOMG NO CARBS/FAT/PROTEIN/FAD DIET” nonsense.
Good for you!! Hearty congrats! Small world– Cassie Vanderwall is speaking for our organization in July in a session about eating and wellness! Anyway– *I* could use some motivation for fitness myself. How do you fit it in when you get up at 530 each morning, home by 7 pm and the dog needs walking, dinner needs cooking, etc., etc. So many excuses on my end…
Small world! I’m quite sure that Cassie doesn’t remember me at all; I only met with her a couple of times two years ago; but she made a huge impact. Probably the biggest influence that she had on me was reinforcing that my lovely wife knows what she is talking about 🙂 She gave simple, practical advice and give me concrete calorie/nutritional numbers to shoot for every day; and that is what I needed to get going. She was terrific. Of course, I’m also nearly 150 lbs down since I first saw her way back when; so even if she did remember me; she sure as hell wouldn’t recognize me! HAH!
As far as how I fit in working out; I’m blessed to have a partner who helps get some of the household stuff done giving me an opportunity to actually get to the gym. Truth is, I really don’t spend more than an hour and a half three times a week doing it. Once you get a routine established of making sure that you get to the gym 3x per week; it becomes pretty easy to work around that. The kids make it a challenge because you can’t just fill up their water dish and leave them in the house for an hour. 🙂 The only real sacrifice that I have made is I have lost the time I would spend sitting on my butt watching TV or playing video games in the evening. That is a good trade off, in my opinion!
Aric
Just incredible. Congrats to you and your family for extending your lifespan. As you know, I have struggled with weight for 3 decades or so now. You look healthy and happy and all of your hard work has paid off. I saw your new picture on LinkedIn and didn’t recognize you.
Lisa
Thank you for the note, Lisa! It has been a battle. Its not easy to break 30+ years of bad habits. I have been fortunate to have a great support system that are all cheering for me and helping to keep me in line! That is the difference! Next time you are in Chicago, let me know and we should get together to catch up!